I used to be dominated by the pressure to be perfect...
to be very different, better! than I am and better! than I ever could realistically be.

In various layers of my being, consciously and not-consciously,
I used to think that I had to be perfect to be loved, to be acceptable, to deserve good things.

I have been allowing shift on this for many years now, layer after layer, thought after habit, emotional default after energetic attachment… shifting and allowing light and lightness.
It is a blessing to allow healing and change at the deep layers.

It gave me a lever to help me free myself, when my spiritual teacher told me that there is NO perfection in this world.  On the Physical, perfection is an unobtainable ideal (perfect picture), so it would serve me to let go for this Imaginary Delusion of Perfection.

At the same time, it helped me to see and expereince over and over, from a Spiritual perspective, that Everything and Everyone really is perfect: right now.  Always have been, always will be  Perfect.  Everything is ALL Right!  That is the spiritual reality which I expereince, when I tune into my mystical senses.  As Julian of Norwich said:
‘All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.’ 
It also helps me to notice what I think perfect is...

Is it a rigid picture of how someone or something should be, an IDEAL?
This doesn’t work for me, I never live up to my own or other’s idealized pictures of who I should be, what I should look like, and what I should do.
And nothing in this world lives up to my idealized pictures either.
This is a painful way to live, and it doesn’t work for me.

Fortunately my spiritual practice has very useful distinctions and practices around these ‘perfect pictures’ that so often drive us – so I am grateful to be in the process of letting go of them, and the mechanisms behind them, deep in my psyche.

Another way to look at perfect, which I find enlivening:

The Greek word that is often translated as perfect, can also mean:  Complete, Mature.
See full definition here.

I find this a useful way to look at ‘perfection’ – like an acorn that has now become a mighty oak (As my favorite Christian Minister, Dr Bruce Morgan, used to say ; )

Of course, I STILL won’t get to full maturity in this reality, until my life completes and I am ready to transition. But, I really like this definition of perfection: to be allowing myself be in active process of wholeness and coming to completion as MYSELF in my Unique Being and Doing in this world!

And to be clear! I do not mean coming to maturity through Striving, through Effort, though Trying to be bigger, faster, smarter, BETTER!
  • I mean like a child in the sandbox, playing: and while I play: learning and growing and maturing.
  • I mean like the beautiful tree BEING itself every day in every way: enjoying the land it is on, soaking up the rain, delighting in the sunlight, swaying in the breeze… then millimeter by millimeter = after years, or decades, or centuries of being – it comes to its fullness.
  • I mean a maturity that comes with being myself, creating and playing in the physical reality, trusting Spirit.

I am excited about that kind of perfection!
How about you?

in Life!

I believe our path in this world 
is to bring the Perfection we already spiritually Are - our true selves: Light, Love, Truth...
fully and uniquely manifested into this reality - this world, this body, this life

Want to read more? Here are some posts on: Teleios? Coming to our Perfection