Saturday, April 29, 2017

Empathy is our Natural State - let's enjoy it!

I am a fan of Seth Godin.
I am blessed by his work, and today I happen to have a different take than him, on empathy.
I am sharing below an iteration of my response to his post: Empathy is the hard part    

thanks for original picture from Maksym Kozlenko 

Amen, we cannot outsource empathy... compassion, love, experiencing the oneness that we truly are behind all the distraction...
and what a shame if we could outsource this, really,
what a loss to miss the delight of connection.


I so agree, we learn to make empathy SO hard.

But I believe empathy is our natural state, we are One.

Unfortunately, for most of us, experiencing this Oneness in this life usually involves the expereince of pain, fear, shame...
And we are programmed by almost everything and everyone around us to shut-down - so most of us do.

Meanwhile, I believe our natural heart state is like a sweet, gentle flower
- open to the sun, swaying in the breeze, so present, so joyful, so beautiful, so delicious.

But our flower gets covered-over - often with many ouches, scars, various armorings.
It becomes hard for many of us to even see the flower - to experience that it is there - in ourselves, in others...

But the flower IS there - our natural state of Oneness... its still there, under all the crap.

So I believe from this perspective,
it may be easier to see:
WHY getting to this oneness, enjoying empathy,
can - at first - be very confronting, painful, scary, sharp, full of resistance... wearing.


Actually BEing with another means
actually BEing present,
in the moment, with what IS
- really with ourselves and with them and with this reality.

This can be Really!! Tiring!!
- all the getting over the crap - ours and theirs and our culture's crap.
For many this is way too hard.
We do half-measures, or some just give up.

But the road of opening the heart is available to all whole want it 
- it is not easy for most of us, but the fruit is delicious.
And the good news is: 
From a healed and open heart, empathy is like falling off a log, it is our natural state.


So, most of us have closed-up our hearts, deep within ourselves.
And we are blessed with the challenge and the fruit of opening our heart.

But some of us are blessed with even more to learn and practice. 

(yes, where we trip IS our Treasure - so let's dig ;)

Very central to this conversation - what can be seen as the other side of the coin:
some are too open; in ways that are detrimental.

Some terms used for this are being an 
Empath, being a 
Sensitive or an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)

BTW, this is not a heart-issue - our deep heart is made to open and expereince our natural connection.
But, Some of us, because of our background and choices, are too receptive in other ways - to others thoughts, feelings, experiences, will, desires...

Within, we have not learned things like:
  • Dancing our own power and volition;
  • Enjoying comfortable boundaries;
  • Interacting-with and learning-from emotions, and then letting them go;
  • Balancing within ourselves, not dragged along by our own or others feelings, instincts, drives, judgements;
  • Belonging in this world, being safe and well regardless of others opinions and behaviors...

We can learn these things.
And it is important to note, there are always very compelling reasons why we have learned them yet.
So compassion around this learning is really helpful.

We can learn and shift inside, and then in our outward expereince.
But, until we learn how to live comfortably, safe and empowered in and with our body, in the presence of others,
we suffer, we are overwhelmed, we take-on other people's stuff, our lives don't work.

This really is a super-draining way to live, and often painful, debilitating - certainly ineffective.
But, this (also) is not our natural state.

Naturally, we are powerful, and we can find and live in that natural flow of power.
And we can find and learn to own our free will, again.

Naturally, we can learn to turn our internal senses up and/or down, comfortably as needed. 
Within ourselves, we can turn down the volume of others feelings, experiences, communication 
- so we can comfortably be with others, without getting bowled-over.

Naturally, we can learn to shift our intention:
although we are all, already One;
we can learn to happily play the game of I/Thou in this life of dichotomies.

In this world of 10,000 things, we can be our own selves, enjoy our own body our own life, our own challenges, our own choices - and not get lost in everyone else's journey and expereince.

We can be blessed in a relationship with all others - with a space between us - so we can see, love, and play with others - and not be a big pile of mush one finds, for example, in co-dependency.

It may seem counter-intuitive, but truly honoring another and ourselves as separate unique individuals, can support us to show-up to Be With them, in a safe and loving way.


Here I go, on and on
I am passionate that
our natural comfortable empathy, connection with each other, understanding and being-with each other very deeply
really can be easy, delicious and enriching.

I believe it is our natural state.


Archimedes said:
give me a firm spot on which to stand and a lever long enough and i will move the world.

As in sports, business, etc -
it helps to stand-in and act-from an efficacious place
and have many levers/practices to utilize
- so we can be equipped and empowered to be who we are and do what we are here to do - more easily, more gracefully.

I believe it is useful to know,
this is possible regarding empathy, as well.

If we are willing to learn and shift:
Showing up in/with empathy can be easy & fun, 
and true connection with others can actually help fill our well, not drain it.

Empathy is our Natural State - let's enjoy it!

Thanks for reading.
Blessings on your Unique Journey, Wendy

After I wrote this, I realized it goes very nicely with a class I am offering, starting in a few weeks: Enough! Receiving & Giving... and Boundaries! with Mother Mary - online workshop

you can read more about being an Empowered Empath


Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Let's Play our Own Game

We live in a challenging time, and the battle-cry is RESIST!
even sometimes from the pulpit, from spiritual folks...

But, Jesus said: “resist not evil”

Why would he say that?
Clearly, we should not allow unproductive behavior, hurtful words and actions... right?

Well, Let's unpack this a bit.

1) Resistance is a powerful anti-blessing

Resistance is a nature human reaction to what we do not like, to what we judge to be wrong. It is a behavior, and it is also a body-energy.

Resistance is friction in our space, it acts like tar – holding US and Them in place.
As a soul-reader/healer, I see Resistance as the same color as Hate, Hopelessness, Despair, Punishment, and Anti-God energy.

2) Resistance is Futile

Resistance drives us in the wrong direction:

we go toward where we put our attention
what we put our attention on grows

“what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”
- Carl Jung, depth psychologist

“He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee.”
- Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche in “Beyond Good and Evil”

3) Resistance keeps us from playing our own game.

4) Resistance and its counterpart Attachment, keep us from being Clear, unhooked

physically, in electricity - If a material has a high resistance, it means electricity will struggle to get through it. The more the electricity has to struggle, the more energy is wasted.

Spiritually, energetically - Wherever we resist in our own space, it makes us vulnerable - its stuck and collects ouchies

matthew 7

1“Do not judge so that you will not be judged.
“For in the way you judge, you will be judged;
and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.

“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye,
but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
“Or how can you say to your brother,
‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’
and behold, the log is in your own eye?

“You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

5) Resistance distracts us from doing what actually works – Acceptance, and then Action not Reaction
If we want to make a positive difference, we must Be with what IS.

In improv – playful yes is the only useful response, from there we can lead
“We cannot change anything unless we accept it.” 
- Carl Jung, depth psychologist

"You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete".
- Buckminster Fuller

No Problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it
– unknown (but not Einstein)


Jesus goes WAY beyond being Clear – non-Resistance
all the way to “love your enemies”

Talk about Being Love, playing your own game:
In the middle of being arrested,

playing your own game: we do not play the same games as those we disagree with – we play a different game, from a different consciousness:
one of those who were with Jesus reached and drew out his sword,
and struck the slave of the high priest and cut off his ear.
Then Jesus said to him,
“Put your sword back into its place;
for all those who take up the sword shall perish by the sword.”
- Mat 26:51-51

Being Love:

And He touched his ear and healed him.

- Luke 22:51


(some notes from an advanced class around resistance, in case anything serves you)

What is Resistance:

Resistance is an energy.
It's a body energy, you feel it in your body.
It comes with the territory of having a body.
It's the energy of not liking what IS: what is happening, what someone is doing, something about yourself or another person; something about the situation. It's the energy of digging in your feet and going "grrrr, grrrr, grrr."


When you are in resistance, you lose your power.
When you resist something, you give up your seniority to it.

When you lose your power and your seniority, you cannot change whatever it is you are resisting.
You are STUCK. You can't move forward, you can't move backward.

When you see that you are in resistance to someone, you really are in resistance to yourself.
The first step is to ask yourself:
"What is the matching picture here that I don't want to see in myself."
If you can't see it in your own space, then you project it onto someone else.

I'm sure you've seen OTHER people do this.
"I will never be like my Dad!" using the same tone of voice that his father uses.

This is why we read other people -- to blow our matching pictures.
Sometimes it is easier to see the picture lit up in someone else than in yourself.
Then you find that picture in your space and blow it.

You know you've blown the picture when you feel neutral
-- you aren't in resistance anymore.
You've gotten your power and seniority back.
You can breathe again!

Sometimes it is "Who does this person remind me of?"
Someone who wasn't very nice to me?

When you are in resistance,
you cannot hear or have any valuable information that the person, or the situation, might have for you.
You're just stuck saying, "No, no, no, no, no!"

Running Resistance, Neutrality & Amusement


Body of Glass

Body-of-Glass is the art of non-resistance and removing the pictures that collect as energy in our space. 
You become what you resist because when you are resisting something, you are putting your energy into the picture of whatever it is you are resisting.
By putting energy into the picture, you are validating it and making it more "real" (manifesting it).

We get rid of our pictures by exploding roses.
But you’re not going to explode every picture you have,
especially since we have trillions of pictures of life experiences we have had.

The older you get the more pictures you have, the more things you have done.
You don’t have to explode all the pictures to be in a body of glass,
you just have to explode the resistance.

You can still have the picture but you clean off and explode the resistance to it.
This tool is called a body of glass because the energy can pass right through, like a beam of light. 

The resistance in your space acts like dirty spots on glass that hold on to energy as it tries to pass through. 
We don’t turn into glass, we become “no resistance”. 

There is always a picture, doorway, or an agreement to allowing someone else’s energy in your space.
You do not have to de-energize all your pictures and thoughts in order to be immune to collecting energy from others. 
You can instead become a Body of Glass in which you have zero resistance. 

We create and use a rose to collect up resistance in our auras and remove it. 
Then we experience being a body of glass to invalidation, competition, and anger. 

Be a Body of Glass before any reading. 
Create a rose and pull out all the resistance energy in your aura. 
Do this whenever you know there is a lot of attention being placed on you;
whenever you are going to teach or give a talk and know there are some people that don’t like you or what you have to say.
Most psychics have not been trained to let competition go so it is a good idea to become a body of glass to let their energy pass through.
Also, it is a good idea to stay in amusement, smile, and laugh.
You do this and become a body of glass and your energy will stay high and there will not be such an energy drain.

Also, you will have more clients than if you are not so serious and if you don't let resistance stick to you.
Be sure you ground, run energy, become a body of glass, and get in amusement and get up at the end of the day and feel better.
Bring in a golden sun.

Friday, April 21, 2017

Enough! Receiving & Giving... and Boundaries! with Mother Mary - online workshop

Goodbye Resistance, Hello Glory!
Our Deepest needs met, and serving the world from there.

We live in a cornucopia of Grace: we ARE and we Have Enough!
  • We can let-go of the pernicious lies that we are broken, lacking, undeserving...
  • We can let-go of the pernicious lies that we don't deserve the the profligate gifts of Heaven, the ridiculously abundant gifts of the Earth.
  • We are safe IN God - we can trust, tomorrow, we are gonna be and have Enough, so we can LIVE Now!

We can deeply serve ourselves, our world, and Spirit, by finding our own edge, and holding our Boundaries.
  • We can STOP 'putting up with', let-go of victim patterns.
  • We can say NO! (and make lots of room for bigger YESes!)
  • We can find our true soul Power, and our lost or broken Free-Will.
We can Dance with Life, what we like and what we don't like, with Freedom and Joy!
  • We can get un-Stuck, stop judging and RESISTing.
  • We can let-go of fighting - which holds what we don't like in place - and instead invite flow, change.
  • We can trust ourselves and the leading of spirit to create inner and outer structures that align with who we ARE and what we are here to DO, what only we can do!

We can comfortably and sustainably Help & Heal, Give & Share from Abundant Overflow!
  • We can live in a waterfall, in a spring, of grace and wild blessings - let's let it in.
  • We can let go, let God. We don't have to hold on so tight, try to control... We can allow what is NEXT for us!
  • We can notice the beauty and gift of an *I* / *THOU* relationship - honoring our own and their unique selves.

->  Enough!  Receiving & Giving... and Boundaries!  with Mother Mary

Online Workshop Every Friday afternoon in May, in Seattle 
(Friday evenings in New York, and Saturday mornings in Sydney)
This is not an intellectual process - this is not something to just listen-to.
I am leading your though a spiritual expereince.
We will be together in deep meditation, tuning into yourself, in spiritual communication with the God of your Heart, playing with Mother Mary...
You Can miss the live broadcast, if you Must, and meditate with the audio, on your own
but you Must be present and interactive for the first session,
OR you can enjoy a private session with me before meditating through sessions on your own,
OR have worked with me directly, in the past.

Timing is like this in Seattle, please translate for your area:

Friday, May 5, 12, 19, 26

3:30 - 4 pm - lines open, we begin to gather, check-in, some time to share a healing with one or two folks
4 - 5 pm - Meditation Workshop - please make time and space to put your full attention on this expereince.
5 - 5:30 pm - lines stay open, time to answer questions, hear your experiences...

Please contact me to Register now, this workshop begins soon.

Blessings on your Unique Path,
in Life!

I gave the talented Gretchen Williams a short description of the picture I was given for this workshop, last night, and i woke up to all these beautiful pics this morning!  She owns the rights to these pics and I am using by permission.  You can contact her here.

Monday, April 17, 2017

True Certainty and Humility as Friends

This is a short back and forth I had with a friend this past weekend:

I said:
friend said:
no you said y

I said:
no, i said x,
apparently, you heard y

friend said:
no you said y

I said:

Owning our own experience
AND honoring the experience of others
is an advanced soul skill.

In my experience,
this skill requires True Certainty and Humility.

And can lead us to deeper
wisdom, relationships, empowerment...


I define True Certainty as
trusting, believing, relying-upon our own perception, senses, experience…
This is from our everyday, physical experience; as well as our internal, soul expereince.
(In my definition, it isn’t a rational thing - it is much wider and deeper )

Our own True Certainty is much needed;
and generally in short supply in our society.

Many try to find certainty from others,
buy Their certainty instead of finding and growing our Own.
This is a journey in the wrong direction: bad fruit, IMO/E.

Other’s certainty leads us on their paths… not our own.
We look through their eyes, hear through their ears… not our own.
We follow their perceptions, go in the direction they are led, live-through their beliefs, act in their best-interests… not our own.


At the same time, we cannot push our own True Certainty onto others.
We can only encourage each other to find and stand-in our OWN Unique True Certainty.

We cannot know or share other peoples truth for them.
We cannot shove our certainty down their throats.

We can only, with humility, say our own truth, from our own perspective…
Honoring that they might experience differently.

IF what I say resonates with them, great.
IF they can hear it, and own it for themselves, in alignment with their own perspective, great.
IF they do not resonate, it is not their truth, great.

it is that simple, IMO/E.
Can we just
- let it be?
- let each other be?
- maybe learn and grow and shift into some more useful place?

Can we flexibly stand in a powerful place:
- Do we have the Active Power of our own Certainty to stand where we are, and honor where they stand?
- Do we have the Receptive Power of our Humility, to allow them to have their own journey, different from our own?


From where I stand:
as a person,
as a citizen,
as a soul/psychic healer and teacher:

- It is Vital that we each build the strength of Certainty and Humility,
so we can stand powerfully in our own truth, and speak it…
AND stand-for others to do the same.

- It is Vital that we speak in a way that leaves lots of room for the other’s experience.


When we share what we experience, from where we stand:

- Sometimes they will shift, that is great.
- Sometimes we will shift, that is great.
- Sometimes, no one will shift, that is great.

ALL of this, if we stay in this Game, is a chance for each of us:
- to practice, to build our soul muscles of Humility and Certainty,
- to stand on rock, not shifting sand,
- to each walk our own way, truth, light, life…

in my expereince,
THIS is a powerful aspect of True Certainty and Humility as friends.

What is your experience?