Sunday, December 16, 2012

Empaths: Let’s Stop the Suffering!

I am an empath.

I was so excited when I learned that there was such a thing as being an empath,
because I felt alone, and overwhelmed, and out of control, and freakish... 
SO, I was excited to learn that I wasn't alone, and I felt validated in my experience.

But now, decades later, I am uncomfortable identifying as an empath, or as a ‘A Highly-Sensitive Person’ (HSP). 
Why is that?

Empaths can be powerful and capable.
Empaths get info about the state of the people and the vibes around them, that many miss.
Why would I feel uncomfortable about that?

These things are great!
But here is my issue:  for many of us, there is a suffering that goes along with being an Empath, that is unnecessary.
That is not great.  And I would like to see us all let that go!

Without training, it is easy for us Empaths to feel overwhelmed by sensitivity to so much of life;
dominated by emotions, heaviness, darkness, and suffering! 
I am here to tell you - there is a WAY OUT.

I have enjoyed over a dozen years of freedom from all that crap! 
This way if life is delightful and delicious, and I am so peaceful and blessed to be past that.
I am still an empath, but I am a comfortable, happy and free Empath.

We can still keep the special gifts we are blessed-with
AND find balance with them!
If that sounds good to you - please read on…

From my expereince, the ups and downs of most people's expereince of being an Empath were modeled very well by Counselor Deanna Troi on Star Trek, The Next Generation. 
If you are familiar, she was an Empath who received information that was often useful to herself and others.
BUT: she was sometimes overtaken by other energies/personalities, and she was sometimes overwhelmed by others emotions.

An interesting question, that I didn't consider before my own training:
Isn't it strange that an entire culture/species could have these abilities,
but not have the information/ability to protect themselves and control their Clairsentience.

A Clairsentient is someone who has a heightened ability to perceive the information in our soul about how the body feels - emotions and sensations - our own and others - it is another word for Empath.

This inability for information moderation as well as holding one's own personal boundaries, that Deanna experienced, made for a great plot device (but it does not make a great life, for us ;)
Fortunately, it turns out in REAL life, there is a lot of information and practices that assist us to manage our information receptivity and have our own experience, this just isn't known to our common culture. 

Knowledge and practices have been passed down through the millenia, from many different sources and spiritual traditions, about how to live comfortably, empowered and free. 
With practice, these tools can become as easy as turning a volume control up and down.

Practicing these tools, has revolutionized my life!

Your suffering can be OVER! 
Are You ready for that?

Being overwhelmed by emotional information and carrying other people's garbage around, doesn't make us special, it makes us SAD and dis-empowered. 
It turns out that Everyone has soul senses and abilities, its just that 
- some of us have them turned way up - consciously: too much
- some have them turned way down - consciously: not sensing anything 
- and some of us have them tuned - just about right, most of the time ;)

We can all find our volume controls - and come to balance!
Now that my dials are more comfortably and powerfully set, 
not only am I SO much less miserable - physically, emotionally, relationally, in my soul...
I am free to be of true service in the world. 

Now that I have chosen to do what it it takes to stop suffering and be free: 
I have more and more energy available to live life, abundantly; 
and to share Love, Light and Life in the world.

From my experience, when we start to realize that we can be more energetically and emotionally comfortable - it is a choice we can make. 
I teach folks how to do this all the time, and my students consistently enjoy tremendous freedom and joy... after years of their own unique brand of heartache and pain.

IF you are willing to learn, heal, and Practice change, 
you too can stop the suffering as an Empath, 
and live an amazing and abundant life.

Read more in the previous post


Empaths: Let's Be Free!

The experience of Soul freedom and joy are a real and actual possibility for each of us,
available whenever and wherever we choose to realize/ manifest/ co-create them.

Just like our physical senses and abilities,
We are so generously gifted with soul senses, to enjoy and to help us find our way;
as well as soul abilities to serve soul evolution, to serve others, to serve ourselves.

These Soul Senses and Abilities Empower and Equip us to 
lead Awesome lives and make the difference we are here to make
... They are NOT meant to make us suffer! 

If your soul senses and abilities are causing you distress...
It comes down to this, pretty much:
  • If the radio is too loud, turn it down, and then go on with your life...
  • If you don't know how to turn the radio down - find out!
  • Now that you have read this, I hope you never again tell yourself:   
  • I just have to live with this radio screaming in my ear, I have no choice, it is just my 'cross to bear'... because it is NOT!
  • Having a radio is a beautiful gift of music and communication, education and entertainment... being able to turn it up, down, on, off, change the channel, even... that is just basic operating instructions!

Many suffer, and it really sucks.
I know this with my life.
I lived in overwhelm, depression and chronic physical illness for decades, in large part because I was too empathically open and I took on way too much disturbance and emotion from others.

BUT, from the time I started learning inner tools, over a dozen years ago, all this started to turn around. 
I am free in a way I never imagined I could be
... and you can be too!

I work with people every day in soul development,
and ONE of the many things we learn to handle, within ourselves, is managing empathic info and energy.
It is easy to learn and practice, for most people. 

Everyone I have worked with, who chooses to shift their experience and shift their life, has done so:
  • With training of one evening, many can shift. 
  • Others take a few weeks to a few months, because of the layers of choices and habits in their system that hold their old way of over-responsibility, victim and overwhelm in place.  
  • For many of us, there are parts of our system that don't want to be free, joyful, powerful, and in the drivers seat of our lives - this must be addressed and shifted.
  • There is great value in receiving soul training, rather than suffering through decades of trying to figure out the 'ropes' by oneself, or the blind leading the blind.

Together, let’s stop the tremendous suffering going on about this, 
when it is so incredibly unnecessary. 

If you are suffering, I encourage you to be UN-stoppable in your quest, until you find the tools and ability you need to shift, and begin savoring your life!  

It is a great service to ourselves, to our loved-ones, to our shared world, and to Spirit, 
when we allow ourselves to let go of heaviness and darkness, and allow ourselves to be Light and Life in our world.

Empaths: Let's Be Free!

.(This post goes along with the one above - you can read here)