Thursday, September 7, 2017

the independence and interdependence of the major body chakras




I wrote this post to review and explicate some distinctions for recent meditation participants, and I thought I would share:

Chakra is a Sanskrit word meaning wheel, which refers to the different energy centers within our body.
There are very many of these, all over our system - big and small.


Several years ago, the metaphor of the tiered tray started coming to me, as a way to see and nurture the relationship between the Major chakras of the body.
I like the image becasue it shows how the major body chakras are both independent and interdependent.

Each chakra is unique, with focused intelligence & genius, specialized abilities & responsibilities.
AND
All the chakras are connected:
the upper chakras build on the lower ones,
the lower ones are watered by the upper ones.

Leading to a cornucopia of blessing thoughout our own system
and fortifying us to BE who we are in the world, DOing what we are here to do, what only we can do!

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It is vital that we gently awaken and nurture all of our energy centers to help us enjoy a powerful, integrated human life.

- If we want a sustainable and safe spiritual journey,
- if we want to enjoy our human embodied lifetime,
- if we want to expereince deep connection with others, and/or the bliss of Divine expereince,
- if we want to actively dive into spiritual evolution...

If we want any of these things, or most anything else in this life:

We cannot skip steps
We cannot run ahead to high spiritual experiences and ignore the base.

And at the same time, If we want a joyful, fulfilled human experience,
it behooves us to go beyond the basics of physical focus and existence, to spiritual depth.

Remembering and investing-in
- the independent fruition of
AND
- the interdependent relationship between
ALL our major chakras



So in very simple terms:

from grounding, being supported from the earth,

supporting our (1) root chakra,
our relationship with this reality - safe, basic needs met, belonging

supporting our (2) sacral chakra,
our relationship with our body experience, communication, expression

supporting our (3) solar plexis chakra,
our relationship with our will, power, the energy we need and how we use it.

supporting our (4) heart chakra,
our relationship with the spiritual Oneness that IS, All our Relations.

supporting our (5) throat chakra,
our relationship with communication, self-expression, the stories we live-in.

supporting our (6) brow chakra,
our relationship with how we see the truth, past the lies; seeing our Way.

supporting our (7) chakra,
our relationship with knowing our Way, Light, Love, Truth, Glory, Wisdom, Unique experience of the Divine... spiritually IN our body, engaged in our life.

And at the same time, the blessings of these upper chakras rain down upon the lower ones - enlivening, feeding, filling them with the water of life...


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Saturday, August 19, 2017

"He simply becomes friends with them and they give up the KKK on their own"


Katie said:
As an answer to the question, "What can we do?",
I offer this article.
If we want to see the hate dissipate, we need to engage in conversation.
Shouting from the roof top to deaf ears (and echo chambers) will do very little to move this country forward,
instead be mindful of your interactions with people.
Bring up the tough topics and discuss.
Be willing to listen AND share.

BTW, a documentary about this guy is now streaming on Netflix: “Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America”



The article contains this powerful quote:
He never tries to convert the Klansmen. He simply becomes friends with them and they give up the KKK on their own.

From my perspective, 
this is how life actually works.

What we Resist, persists.
What we run-from, chases us.

Resist not evil.
Love your Enemies.

What if Jesus wasn't just being spiritually revolutionary, 
what if he was being pragmatic? 
when he said:

"do good to those hating you, 
bless those cursing you, 
and pray for those accusing you falsely"

With a deep bow to race,
I would also like to note some of the other issues that divide us:
  • religion/spirituality
  • sexual orientation
  • gender and gender orientation
  • nationality and country of origin
  • political and economic theories we identify-with…
  • As well as our everyday human disagreements and conflicts.

The healing power of 
Communication, 
showing-up, 
being-with...
is huge IMO/E.

From my perspective:
Acceptance produces change.
Hate can only hurt, not Heal.

What is your wisdom, experience, theory? 
In practice, is this easy/hard to live?

in life! Wendy

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Invitation: OWN your Voice Retreat: Upstate NY, Labor Day Weekend 2017





Are you Ready to Welcome, on a deeper level, your innate ability to:

• Live Solidly in your Truth, Rest in your Power, Bring your Presence, Share with Charisma

• Trust Love, Life, and your Unique and Beautiful Way, as you take the Stage in your Life 

• Feel more confident in Singing from your Center, with Freedom, Joy & Inspiration

Then please come enjoy passionate community, delicious food, beautiful Momma Nature, and an amazing opportunity to:

OWN Your Voice!
DARE to Say your Truth, Sing your Beauty: 
Soul Pathways to Freedom, Power, and shifting your Experience and your World

Retreat with co-facilitators: Ben Silver & Wendy R Wolf, 
and several other special guests to support you in body care, soul healing and tending to your singing voice, so you can bloom!

in Upstate NY (20 minutes North of Poughkeepsie, East of New Paltz)
Labor Day Weekend (Friday Sept 1st evening - Monday Sept 4th afternoon)

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We will work and play together with:

• Body and Soul tools; learn & practice techniques and distinctions which help you act from a stable base, with creativity and passion, in your Singing, as well as in your life.

• Movement, breath, energy, meditation, focused intention and vocalization, to support you to gently open to deeper healing, transformation and self-expression.

• Large and small group interactions; as well as individual sessions, to address your personal self-care, challenges and opportunities. Support, training, modeling from folks who embody in various ways, where we want to go in Owning Your Own Voice. 

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This all-inclusive, 3 day retreat is packed with goodies, and valued at $1300.
but we are offering this for the first time at half price: $649

*** Plus we are offering a Special Early-Bird rate of only $499 ***
if you Register by the end of July with $150 deposit.

Ways to SAVE: if your budget is tight, but you are committed to participating in this retreat, please be in touch ASAP,
- limited work-study discounts are available, as well as
- generous referral discounts (so please invite your friends, it’ll be more fun AND you will save) 

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Please Email Wendy for more info, and to register.
You can see this thread of my blogs for more info, and I will be adding more soon, Logistics and such.

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Let’s get together and practice with playful community, and then bring to our world:

- Showing-uo Consciously here & now, within yourself and Being Present in your life.

- Being who you are here to be, Making the difference only you can make. And

- Inspiring others to do the same - shifting our world!

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If you are interested, but unable to make this event:
- Email Wendy to stay in the loop for other events
and
- Mark your interest on this Facebook Event Page, we will be sharing on the DISCUSSION page: a taste of our our vision, as well as useful insights and practices to Own Your Voice: 



Monday, July 10, 2017

Take Your Place, on the Stage of Your Life: OWN your Voice Retreat: Upstate NY, Labor Day Weekend 2017



Are you Ready to Take Your Place, on the Stage of Your Life?

- Being Seen & Heard; Making your Unique Contribution.

- Knowing you Deserve to BE You, and to DO Your Thing.

- Realizing: we All Need to hear Your Voice in the Universal Chorus.



OWN Your Voice! Retreat - Upstate NY, Labor Day Weekend, 2017


Deepen into your birthright, be more:

- Free, to just Be, Do, Say... Simply Sing.

- Empowered, in your own free-will.

- Enlivened, to live, to grow, to blossom, as YOU.



Strengthen your strong and sure Foundation, within; supporting you to feel more:

- Safe & Sound; living & creating from a place of Ease – no matter what happens in your world.

- Worthy of attention & self-expression.

- Centered in the knowledge that You Matter; and your gifts & your message Matter.



Savor Peace & Quiet, the space to BE:

- Comfortable in your own skin; even as you go Higher, Wider, Wilder...

- Connecting & Communicating with self, others and the world; Hearing and being Heard.

- Present with Life and with your Song – pausing to magnify the deliciousness of the notes.



Heal into your Essential Wholeness, so you can enjoy Singing; become more able to:

- Shift your vibration by singing: access Beauty, bring Joy to your World... in your everyday life.

- Play, Risk with your voice... alone, in groups... Just Sing, sing a Song... without all the angst ; )

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Wednesday, June 21, 2017

People Don’t Think of You as Much as You Think They Do

A friend share this post, which I really liked: 
and highlighted this: 
7. People Don’t Think of You as Much as You Think They Do
From our perspective, the whole world revolves around us, but there are 7 billion people who see it the same way. While we are not all inherently selfish or self-obsessed, we are all far more concerned with how we are perceived by others than how we perceive them.
So once again, embrace your true self and find peace in knowing that people are too concerned with themselves to give you as much as attention as you think they are.

This is a really important and powerful distinction, IMO.
Just Being With What IS: that I am not the center of the Universe for other people, is really powerful, and really helps me just show up, be myself, and do my thing. 

This distinction can help us set ourselves free - to allow the freedom that is Already Ours - so we can BE the Captain of our Lives.


I have found, if I show up to a general conversation and 
I have one interesting thing to share about what is up for me; 
just a few empowering sentences...
that is more than enough.
IF they listen that far, its unusual.

After that, if they Really are wanting to listen and share together, we can dance!
But, usually people are far more concerned with themselves, their sharing, their agenda, their needs...

People generally don't care very much about me, 
and most don't really want to know what is going on for me, 
or really want to have a Deep conversation...
Accepting this, and dancing with it, has helped me be happier.

If I really need to talk, or to be understood, or to be validated and supported - the best place to go, for me, is to Spirit.
From Spirit these needs are met, and I can be filled up with blessings:  I get what I need.
Then I don't go hungry to others, because chances are there is no cheese there.

When I come to a relationship full, not empty;
what I may receive from them is icing on the cake.
But either way, I get cake.
Yum, CAKE.



Jesus told me long ago, a similar thing.
I said HOW HOW HOW could you keep loving, and giving, and healing, and inspiring, and being so patient... loving in the face of all the BS?
To the last: 'Forgive them Father, they know not what they do...'

He said,
I was so filled with Love from Abba - so connected;
I was Love.

So, I was FREE.
I didn't need from them.
I only followed Abba.

Then, if they liked it or they didn't; if they loved me or they didn't - it was ok.
I was free to Just LOVE Them. 

And I could receive any love and validation they sent my way,
but I wasn't addicted to it, or manipulated by it.
I didn't need it, and it didn't influence me.
I was free to follow Abba and just love them,
no
matter
what.

This is very powerful teaching, from Jesus who is modeling an amazing way to live.
Jesus says this way of Freedom and BEing love in the world, is available to each one of us.

That is effin Good News, IMO.

Monday, May 15, 2017

You Are Love (hiding from that can only hurt)


I appreciate this video by Kyle Cease = The Dangers of Closing Your Heart 
I (quickly and dirty) transcribed the middle of the video - and added some bolding. 

: ) Wendy

" the story of your illusion is a lie: you are just unlimited love. That unlimited love is full of infinite creativity, that wants to do things that are a win, win, win for the world. You will create intense abundance for you. You will create lack of codependency. Because you are going to get 
more and more connected with yourself, and feel that you don’t need something outside of you… And feel good. And you will only align with people who have that same self-connection. Could you imagine? Whatever you want in a relationship, is what you need to become.  


Teleios: BE Your Potential Heal Grow Shine with Wendy R Wolf - You Are Love (hiding from that can only hurt)  http://soultechwendyrwolf.blogspot.com/2017/05/you-are-love-hiding-from-that-can-only.html
thanks for photo: John Hain
You can only accept the level of love outside of you, at the level that you accept it with yourself.

So if you don’t love yourself, and you don’t love the scared little voice in you, and you don't spend time meditating and connecting to that; and someone comes and actually loves you, it’s horrifying! Because its bigger than you’ve let yourself have, so you sabotage it. And you go to people that will match your fear based place, and then you become a people pleaser. People pleasers can only attract takers. Right? Because when you are in your heart, and someone comes up to you and they are people pleasing, you can see it… They are saying to me immediately - ‘I’m less’ or 'I’m not worthy'. They are putting me in a place, that puts me in ‘I am superior’, or something. i don’t want that, I am the same as you guys. And if someone puts a separation in us, then it’s not going to work. So when you are in your heart, opening your heart is the most protective thing you can do. People are scared to open their heart; Because they won’t be protected. You will be divinely protected if you open your heart! Because, a fear based person with your heart closed, can only attract another person with their heart closed They are actually not cutting off anything, other than their connection to love and other people who truly love them. So you are cutting that off, and you are in fear, and you are a people pleaser. And you are either going to attract another people pleaser, or someone else who is cut-off and feels incomplete, and needs you to feel complete. So, now you are 2 addictions, keeping each other from accessing your heart. Right? …. As you connect with yourself more, you start to love every fear based thing
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Over time, I have found this kind of assumption a useful mirror:
"Whatever you want in a relationship,
is what you need to become."

I wonder,
what are you looking for in relationship?

and
what are you wanting outside yourself,
that perhaps you could be receiving directly
from yourself? Momma Earth? your Source?

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if you want to read some of my perspective:
No matter what happens: LOVE IS


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Monday, May 1, 2017

When to be KIND? When to be NICE? (What’s the Difference?)

I believe it may assist us on our Way,
to become more aware of the distinctions between being KIND and being NICE.
So we can make conscious choices.


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NICE

I see Nice as initiated for and carried through from the body-level, with a physical focus…
It is a vaneer, putting on a mask.
It is possibly an authentic expression in part of our system, but it is not the true reality of our whole system.

Nice is doing what is expected, pleasing, polite, socially acceptable, inoffensive, accommodating people.
We do this for reasons, such as:
– we don’t want to ruffle feathers.
– we want something from someone.
– we want to be loved, accepted, fit-in…
– we want to survive, to thrive.
– we want to gain, win, succeed.
… lots of reasons we do this.

Being Nice often looks like: saying Yes, inviting IN, over-Giving, under-Receiving.
People are often nice back, often appreciative – if they are not, there may be hell to pay.

Nice can be a conscious choice or it can merely become an unconscious default in our system/ behavior.

Nice is a tool for a greater-end,
a sometimes very useful tool,
but if used unconsciously, sometimes a tool that trips us up.

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KIND

I see Kind as initiated for and carried through from a more spiritual center – whether or not we are conscious of this.
Kindness is a fruit of the spirit – a blessing that we can allow in to fill us, and to overflow through us, blessing the world.
And of course, Kindness is also the beingness and actions that arise from us toward each of our relations, in alignment with our Path, and theirs.

– Sometimes kindness can look or feel pleasant, sometimes not;
– Sometimes Giving, sometimes Receiving… sometimes Both, sometimes Neither;
– Sometimes kindness can be a Yes, sometimes a No;
– Sometimes Hello, sometimes Goodbye.

Sometimes folks will appreciate our kindness and sometimes not.

But, IMO/E, the important thing is to follow the Way
 - - which narturally serves Us And Them.
And to do what naturally arises, as we are IN the Kindness of the Holy One.

Kind can be a conscious choice or it can happen around us without our really noticing – just a fruit that grows as we walk our Path in Spirit.
Kindness is a reward in itself, and has no agenda.

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Kind vs Nice

Us humans are a complicated bunch.
Sometimes, we are truely kind, other times really nice, often a mix of these…
(others times naughty, not nice at all ; )

It can be hard at first to tell the difference – within ourselves and in the behaviour of others
– Is this kind or is it nice?
– Is it real or is it Memorex ; )

I believe it is useful to start to know the difference.
And to start actively choosing how we play our own game, relative to kindness and being nice.

: ) Wendy

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PS – what is your experience/ perspective?

– When to be KIND? When to be NICE? What’s the difference?

– when/where/why is it hard for you to be kind? to be nice?

– when/where/why would you choose not to be kind? to be nice?

Saturday, April 29, 2017

Empathy is our Natural State - let's enjoy it!

I am a fan of Seth Godin.
I am blessed by his work, and today I happen to have a different take than him, on empathy.
I am sharing below an iteration of my response to his post: Empathy is the hard part    

thanks for original picture from Maksym Kozlenko 

Amen, we cannot outsource empathy... compassion, love, experiencing the oneness that we truly are behind all the distraction...
and what a shame if we could outsource this, really,
what a loss to miss the delight of connection.

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I so agree, we learn to make empathy SO hard.

But I believe empathy is our natural state, we are One.

Unfortunately, for most of us, experiencing this Oneness in this life usually involves the expereince of pain, fear, shame...
And we are programmed by almost everything and everyone around us to shut-down - so most of us do.

Meanwhile, I believe our natural heart state is like a sweet, gentle flower
- open to the sun, swaying in the breeze, so present, so joyful, so beautiful, so delicious.

But our flower gets covered-over - often with many ouches, scars, various armorings.
It becomes hard for many of us to even see the flower - to experience that it is there - in ourselves, in others...

But the flower IS there - our natural state of Oneness... its still there, under all the crap.

So I believe from this perspective,
it may be easier to see:
WHY getting to this oneness, enjoying empathy,
can - at first - be very confronting, painful, scary, sharp, full of resistance... wearing.

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Actually BEing with another means
actually BEing present,
in the moment, with what IS
- really with ourselves and with them and with this reality.

This can be Really!! Tiring!!
- all the getting over the crap - ours and theirs and our culture's crap.
For many this is way too hard.
We do half-measures, or some just give up.

But the road of opening the heart is available to all whole want it 
- it is not easy for most of us, but the fruit is delicious.
And the good news is: 
From a healed and open heart, empathy is like falling off a log, it is our natural state.

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So, most of us have closed-up our hearts, deep within ourselves.
And we are blessed with the challenge and the fruit of opening our heart.

But some of us are blessed with even more to learn and practice. 

(yes, where we trip IS our Treasure - so let's dig ;)

Very central to this conversation - what can be seen as the other side of the coin:
some are too open; in ways that are detrimental.

Some terms used for this are being an 
Empath, being a 
Sensitive or an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)

BTW, this is not a heart-issue - our deep heart is made to open and expereince our natural connection.
But, Some of us, because of our background and choices, are too receptive in other ways - to others thoughts, feelings, experiences, will, desires...

Within, we have not learned things like:
  • Dancing our own power and volition;
  • Enjoying comfortable boundaries;
  • Interacting-with and learning-from emotions, and then letting them go;
  • Balancing within ourselves, not dragged along by our own or others feelings, instincts, drives, judgements;
  • Belonging in this world, being safe and well regardless of others opinions and behaviors...

We can learn these things.
And it is important to note, there are always very compelling reasons why we have learned them yet.
So compassion around this learning is really helpful.

We can learn and shift inside, and then in our outward expereince.
But, until we learn how to live comfortably, safe and empowered in and with our body, in the presence of others,
we suffer, we are overwhelmed, we take-on other people's stuff, our lives don't work.

This really is a super-draining way to live, and often painful, debilitating - certainly ineffective.
But, this (also) is not our natural state.

Naturally, we are powerful, and we can find and live in that natural flow of power.
And we can find and learn to own our free will, again.

Naturally, we can learn to turn our internal senses up and/or down, comfortably as needed. 
Within ourselves, we can turn down the volume of others feelings, experiences, communication 
- so we can comfortably be with others, without getting bowled-over.

Naturally, we can learn to shift our intention:
although we are all, already One;
we can learn to happily play the game of I/Thou in this life of dichotomies.

In this world of 10,000 things, we can be our own selves, enjoy our own body our own life, our own challenges, our own choices - and not get lost in everyone else's journey and expereince.

We can be blessed in a relationship with all others - with a space between us - so we can see, love, and play with others - and not be a big pile of mush one finds, for example, in co-dependency.

It may seem counter-intuitive, but truly honoring another and ourselves as separate unique individuals, can support us to show-up to Be With them, in a safe and loving way.

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Here I go, on and on
because
I am passionate that
our natural comfortable empathy, connection with each other, understanding and being-with each other very deeply
really can be easy, delicious and enriching.

I believe it is our natural state.

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Archimedes said:
give me a firm spot on which to stand and a lever long enough and i will move the world.

As in sports, business, etc -
it helps to stand-in and act-from an efficacious place
and have many levers/practices to utilize
- so we can be equipped and empowered to be who we are and do what we are here to do - more easily, more gracefully.

I believe it is useful to know,
this is possible regarding empathy, as well.

If we are willing to learn and shift:
Showing up in/with empathy can be easy & fun, 
and true connection with others can actually help fill our well, not drain it.

Empathy is our Natural State - let's enjoy it!

Thanks for reading.
Blessings on your Unique Journey, Wendy

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After I wrote this, I realized it goes very nicely with a class I am offering, starting in a few weeks: Enough! Receiving & Giving... and Boundaries! with Mother Mary - online workshop

you can read more about being an Empowered Empath

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